Get beyond Shyness

It might be difficult to think about applying or interviewing for an after-school or part-time job if you’re a bit shy. After all, you’ll need to introduce yourself and then talk about yourself and what you can do.

The good news is that there are some steps you can take to overcome your shyness. Try the following:

Think about why you feel shy. Shyness is usually caused by excessive self-consciousness, a negative self-image, or excessive preoccupation with yourself—or a combination of all three. When you’re feeling shy, analyze your thoughts and emotions to find out what’s holding you back. If you understand what’s making you feel shy, you’ll have a better chance at dealing with the problem.

Point out your own strengths—to yourself! Instead of thinking about what you can’t do in a social or work situation, remind yourself of what you’re good at. Most of us usually don’t have trouble talking about subjects where we feel confident and experienced. Focus on these areas instead of any flaws you think you may have. (And chances are that people don’t even notice the things that you think are flaws!)

Practice greeting people. Make a point of saying “hello” to the people you see every day or rather often, such as the bus driver, classmates in the halls, and the cashier at the local store. Once you get into the habit, you’ll find that it’s much easier to smile and greet people in other situations.

Look your best. You don’t need a complete makeover, but you’ll feel more confident if you know you’re presenting yourself well. Don’t overdo it; just be sure you’re appropriate for the occasion.

For additional tips about getting a job, visit Working for a Living.